About the Founders of Positive Discipline

Dr. Jane Nelsen  

"In 1969 I felt like a failure as a mother. I would be authoritarian until I couldn't stand myself. Then I would be permissive until I couldn't stand my kids. I was a senior in college majoring in Child Development and felt discouraged as I became aware of ideals for children and parents. Unfortunately, the books that explained these ideals did not give much help on how to accomplish them.
 
In my last semester of college, I enrolled in a class where the instructor, Dr. Hugh Allred, explained that we would not be learning a bunch of theories but only one theory (Adlerian Psychology), which included practical methods to help children learn self-discipline, responsibility, cooperation, and problem-solving skills. I was hopeful about this possibility, but even more gratified to find that the Dreikurs/Adler methods were effective in spite of my yes, but attitude.
 
I became so excited about my own success that I wanted to share these methods with others. I started as a parent study group leader with friends in my neighborhood and then with parents of educationally and emotionally handicapped children (my MA thesis project) and later became the Director of Project ACCEPT (Adlerian Counseling Concepts for Encouraging Parents and Teachers) in the Elk Grove School District. This was a federally funded, Title IV-C project. Our purpose was to show that children would improve their behavior when parents and teachers attended study groups to learn more effective ways of working with children in homes and classrooms. The results showing improved behavior were statistically significant at the .001 level, so we were awarded funding for three more years to teach other interested school districts how to adopt this program. 
 
The book we were using in this project went out of print, so in 1981 I sat down and quickly wrote another one based on what I had been teaching and learning from other parents and teachers. The book was written in two months and self-published in a format with so many mistakes it would make you laugh today.  Thus, Positive Discipline was born.  Who would know that what people now think of as Positive Discipline would evolve from such an innocent decision?"

Lynn Lott

In 1969 when my first child was six months old, I picked up a book called Children: The Challenge by Rudolf Dreikurs and it changed my life. At that time, there was a group of volunteers leading parenting classes to study the ideas in that book. I took one of these classes, became a volunteer leader, and have been teaching parenting and relationship skills ever since. Though I came to Positive Discipline as a parent, it wasn’t long before I was using the ideas in multiple settings, including my private practice as a therapist.

In 1973, I founded an Adlerian organization in northern California. That organization evolved into the Family Education Center where I ran a weekly parent education/family-in-focus program for thirteen years.  As parents in the program became more involved and skilled, I created an internship program to teach them how to be parent educators and counselors.  The interns learned how to teach experientially, based on what I had learned from John Taylor, so that their parenting groups would be more interesting and effective than the first one I took back in 1969.  I created the Parents Helping Parents Problem Solving Steps so that new students would have a map to use when they counseled parents using the open forum model introduced by Adler, Dreikurs, Christensen, Walton, Platt and others. The open forum included working with volunteer parents, teachers, and/or families in front of an audience. Watching this magical method closely, I could see what these master Adlerians did and turned the magic into steps that others could follow. In the summer of 1987, my students and I created the first Teaching Parenting Manual for others to use."