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Stealing Food and Attachment Disorder - Positive Discipline FAQ

Stealing Food and Attachment Disorder

"I'm hoping you can shed some light on a positive way to deal with a recurrent situation of stealing (food). My partner has two children (8 & 9) who have been stealing food from other kids at their summer camp. I don't know if it is relevant but she adopted them 3 1/2 years ago. We know their early years were difficult, but for the past 3 1/2 years they have been given love, support, guidance and plenty of food. It is clearly not about the food and the behavior needs to change. Can you help?"

— Parent

Penny Davis explains:

  • Even though the children have been with your partner for over 3 years, their early years likely involved trauma, neglect, or multiple moves. This shapes behaviors like hoarding or stealing food.
  • Young children develop implicit survival strategies in the limbic brain, which may not make logical sense to adults.
  • Hoarding or stealing food often reflects unmet needs or fear of scarcity, not lack of discipline or love.
  • Treat the behavior as a symptom of unmet need—do not punish. Address the underlying need instead.
  • Ask curiosity questions: “What do you remember about food when you were little?” or “How does your tummy feel when you’re hungry?”
  • Engage in problem-solving: “What were you trying to accomplish by taking the food?” or “What might be a better way to make sure you have food?”
  • Provide reassurance and security: Allow children access to food in a safe way, e.g., a backpack with non-perishable items or a drawer at home. Reinforce messages like “I love you and there will always be enough food for you.”
  • Recognize that new environments (like summer camp) may re-trigger past fears and behaviors.


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