Behavior Charts

Positive Discipline is based on Alfred Adler & Rudolf Dreikurs. Misbehavior arises from mistaken beliefs about how to achieve belonging and significance.

Tip: Focus on helping children feel valued and capable rather than controlling behavior through fear or shame.

Behavior charts that highlight mistakes or use shame may change behavior short-term but teach external control, not self-regulation or problem-solving.

Tip: Children interpret actions and punishment as feedback about themselves, which can cause pressure, shame, or resentment.

• Remember children do their best in the moment; set clear, respectful limits.
• Ask curiosity questions: “What happened?” or “What ideas do you have to solve this?”
• Discover mistaken beliefs behind behavior to address core needs.
• Ensure environment and expectations are developmentally appropriate.
• Encourage children to set guidelines themselves for ownership.
• Focus on strengths and problem-solving skills, not only misbehavior.
• Use tools like cool-down spots, peace tables, wheels of choice, and class meetings.
• Build connections; kindness in Positive Discipline is about relationship, not rewards.

Positive Discipline encourages children to internalize skills, feel belonging, and develop self-control, which lasts far longer than external charts or punishments.

Focus on relationship, connection, and teaching socially useful skills.