Unresponsive to Playground and Classroom Directions

Laurie Prusso explains:

• Impulse control in preschoolers is just beginning to develop; some children naturally resist transitions and structured demands.
• Children act with goals in mind—seeking attention, belonging, and significance.
• High-energy, creative, and curious children often show “attention-getting behaviors,” especially around transitions.
• Punishment or strict consequences often escalate resistance; relationships and positive guidance are more effective.

• Proactively involve the child in transitions before they occur. Invite them to carry books, distribute mats, or assist in other meaningful ways.
• Include him in tasks for hand washing or snack preparation, providing a sense of contribution and significance.
• For naptime, provide a quiet space with soft activities (play dough, books) for children who struggle to sleep.
• Maintain warmth and belonging rituals: greet and send him off with smiles and positive attention to foster trust and cooperation.
• Use patience, care, and respectful interaction rather than demands to guide behavior.

• Anticipate challenging behaviors and plan invitations for meaningful participation.
• Provide choices and small sense of control over activities to reduce power struggles.
• Focus on teaching social skills and cooperation rather than punishing resistance.
• Use Positive Discipline resources such as Positive Discipline for Preschoolers to understand the relationship between behavior and adult guidance.
• Celebrate successes and progress, even small ones, to reinforce belonging and competence.